Whitley Gilbert, with the help of her dance instructor (played by Debbie Allen) said it best: Relax, Relate, Release.  It had a wonderful southern twang to it that I can't immitate in type - but if you know A Different World and Whitley, chances are you've seen the episode or you at least can imagine the sound.

Relax, Relate, Release hits the nail on the head.  You can't stress out over dieting/lifestyle changing - especially when you have a medium sized dog or a large chair to lose from your body weight.  We blog all week, we resist temptation by the minute, we worry about our appearance by the second, but there comes a time when you just have to let it all go and just breath.  You know your goals, you know how to achieve them, and you're gonna do what you need to - so on Thursdays, before you hit the weekend, just try to shake it off.  That way, you won't go into the weekend frustrated - which just might make you splurge on fatty foods or skip your workout.

So, in the spirit of Thursday, I'm going to take a nice hot shower, light a Decadent Flame Pigasm candle, and watch my favorite tv show before I hit the sack.  I'm not going to grab the bulb of my tummy or pinch my saddle bags - that's Monday behavior.

G'night.

Terhitung tidak sedikit film-film yang diadaptasi dari buku, inilah yang membuat gw jadi tertarik nonton film karena hanya dengan alasan bahwa film tersebut diambil dari buku. Kenapa gw harus nonton film yang diadaptasi dari buku dan kebetulan buku itu sudah gw baca? Mungkin alasannya sama aja dengan yang lain, ingin membandingkan isi buku dengan film dan melihat visualisasi cerita tersebut. Yang gw rasain setelah menonton film yg diadaptasi, memang hasilnya nggak selalu memuaskan gw, selalu ada aja yang kurang. Jelas pasti tidak sama persis dengan buku..tidak semua adegan harus divisualisasikan secara buku itu tebalnya bisa 600 atau bahkan ada yang 1000 halaman. Khan tidak mungkin bisa dengan gamblang tergambar hanya untuk durasi yang notabene sekitar 2 jam atau lebih. Tidak ada yang kurang dengan film-film tersebut karena biasanya hanya menarik benang merah dari plot di buku tersebut. Dan tidak mengurangi esensi penting dari buku tersebut.

Gw selalu merasa feel nya gk dapet kalau gw liat tu film???? Kyanya ada yang kurang dech. Tapi setelah gw melakukan sedikit survei ke beberapa temen gw yang sudah baca buku n nonton filmnya juga ternyata opini mereka berbeda-beda lho, feel yang mereka dapati serta harapan mereka untuk film yang diadaptasi sangat beragam. Mungkin kalau menurut sedikit penelitian gw *cie..gaya..peneliti xixixi* pada saat seseorang membaca buku, efeknya memang beda beda di masing personal. Karena biasanya khayalan dari si pembaca terhadap buku itu tergantung dari setinggi apa khayalannya *alah..bahasanya..wakakaka*

Paradigma gw sedikit terbuka pada saat gw tiba-tiba tanpa sengaja dan niatan menonton stardust..gw tahu film tersebut adaptasi dari buku dan gw belum baca bukunya...ternyata feel yang gw dapet setelah nonton film itu berbeda..ini adalah film pertama gw yang gw tonton tanpa membaca bukunya terlebih dahulu...apalagi setelah itu gw baru melahap bukunya. AHA perasaan gw beda banget ibarat kata kita seperti memasang puzzle tapi ada beberapa piece yang hilang..pas baca bukunya ketemu dech bagian-bagian yang hilang walhasil gambar di puzzle tersebut jelas...^_^

So..nggak ada yang salah sama film film yang diadaptasi dari buku..malah jadi tantangan tersendiri buat sutradaranya agar penggemar dari buku yang diadaptasi tersebut tidak kecewa, setidaknya. Sekarang ekspetasi gw terhadap suatu film yang di angkat dari buku tidak sebesar dahulu kala..sekarang gw coba memposisikan diri gw untuk tidak membandingkan-bandingkan...karena penulis & sutradara itu jelas berbeda,,yang gw tarik sekarang hanyalah setidaknya film & buku punya misi yang sama di ending storynya....

And gw tetap untuk memilih ”buku duru baru filmnya” gw lebih senang dgn pengalaman saat ikut berpetualang di dalam buku & mengembangkan imaji gw sendiri tanpa ada batasan :)

:: Just an ordinary me :: 

"Most cherished in this mundane world is a place without traffic; truly in the midst of a city there can be mountain and forest."~ Wen Zhengming (1470-1559)

This time though I gotta hand it to the mecca of Disney World Epcot and their International Flower and Garden Festival. Their multitude of gardens range from the nostalgic flower sculptures of childhood heroes to the "Sculpture Garden" filled with wonderful works of art on loan from some of Florida's most prestigious collections.

A unique theme in this years festival is the practice of conservation in gardening. A very relevant theme in this time of seemingly perpetual waste and environmental doom and gloom. There are several gardens that exemplify tips to eco friendly gardening and water conservation including their "Green Garden (low input gardening)," "Lush Xeriscapes (minimizing water), " and my personal favorite the "Water Garden Wonders," a creative and beautiful water garden which uses rainwater. Pretty cool huh?

Venue: Epcot Theme Park
Date Range: 03/19/08 - 06/01/08
Schedule: Daily
Event Type: Festival- Arts Festival
Event Cost: Included with admission to Epcot

Great Deals on Great Spots
My Pick: The Skinny on the Wyndham Resort

Locale:
Orlando is sunny, tropical and perfect Resort atmosphere which is why my Orlando pick this week is the Wyndham Resort. This gorgeous 42 acre resort sits on a lush an tranquil lagoon-laced oasis a stones throw from major attractions and includes a complimentary shuttle to Universal Orlando Resort, SeaWorld Orlando and Wet 'n Wild.
Hotel Specs:
Augustines Bar and Grille serves buffet style breakfast and a la carte meals which I particularly enjoy because I can get up, eat what I want and bail to enjoy the day. Also at Gatorville, tropical bevs and unique fare is served poolside which is a nice touch, especially if you like to start early. The hotel has three gorgeous heated pools a fitness and a fitness center for you body buffs.

Guestrooms:
It's nice to have a little insight about the rooms your in so here ar the basics. These classic Florida-style guestroom's feature madras fabrics and bamboo furniture that tropical feel. They are also equipped with high speed internet access and feature several amenities including Golden door toiletries and in room massages by appointment.

If you have any other advice, tips, tricks, hotels events or travel ideas be sure to drop me a line or leave a comment and let me know!

“E’ curioso come un luogo estraneo può portarci dentro di noi, così nel profondo, al centro di pensieri che non riusciamo a formulare quando ci aggiriamo in spazi che ci sono familiari”Le sale d’attesa degli areoporti, gli autogrill, le piazze “finte” degli shopping center. Luoghi non-luoghi, dove non conosciamo nessuno,  e dove – a volte - troviamo noi.

The walk ended with a lovely pint of beer outside the pub watching the very end of a cricket match on Kew Green.

That was a good example of how to relax in the City at the weekend!

Slate ha un numero speciale dedicato all'arte del procrastinare, la mia attività preferita (non posso fare a meno di procrastinare, almeno cinque minuti ogni giorno).

Alcuni degli articoli più interessanti:

• l'etimologia della parola procrastinare, un articolo di Ben Zimmer (ex OED, ora Visual Thesaurus)
• libri in cui la procrastinazione la fa da padrona
• lettera a un giovane procrastinatore: consigli sull'arte del perder tempo.

Qui l'elenco completo degli articoli.

Postato da: IM

It's a not-so-productive day for me as I laid back on my armchair and take a deep breath with my aromatherapy and have a sip of my camomile tea as I chill out with some jazz beats.

Take a deep breath, close my eyes and relax my mind. Enter into a whole new world.

That's my life. Lush.

`jazz out;-

traiesc intr.o amorteala de nedescris and im thinkin > dupa inca 5 ani de medicina oare chiar toti neuronii mei o sa ia vacanta?

Viata de om student e cat se poate de productiva! miroase a formol 40%, a `things that dont relate to medicine` 60% , miroase a cafea si hot cou-cou dupa fiecare lab.

Dupa ce purecam faculta de la etajul 3 pana jos la semiunu , parter, subsol, jos sus, lab-curs, noi, enoriasi credinciosi ne intoarcem la cafeaua cea de toate pauzele.

Totul e dinamic, nu te lasa sa gandesti, nici o urma de nesiguranta, totul trebuie disecat-impartit-maruntit-rontait pana nu mai ramane gol, fara urma de demnitate. La final devi transparent.

Am asistat la o decapitare live. M.am uitat in jur si am observat cum toti filmau, pozau, si radeau si eu

(STOP am varsat iaurtu`)...ok o bluza si 2 nervi mai incolo revin la subiect>

si eu imi imaginam cum protesteaza cadavrul, reconstituiam miscarile fetei, a muschilor scosi la lumina, zbatutul globilor oculari si venele se umflau si sangele pompa furios....aveam o intreaga poveste si un scenariu siropos... mirosul de formol si carne m.a scos totusi din reveria mea fericita

laboratoarele de anato sunt lungi si se desfasoara cu cosmopolitan , scaune patrate fara spatar, si Vaida.... Dansa e asistenta noastra de lab ..o adevarata persoana-fenomen. o admir pentru sarcasmul rece si umorul negru, imi place k rade si se amuza, imi place k tine la noi in felul ei ciudat si critic, imi place k vorbeste rarait si are parul rosu, k e medic homeopat si k nu raspunde la telefon; peste toate lucrurile straluceste o latura inteligenta si umana. rasul ei e cel mai tare!

La biochimie avem un paianjen mic si indesat, care vorbeste strident si cum stam in spate suntem tinta tuturor intrebarilor de baraj, whateva ... foarte boring!

Am luat 8 la anatomie...rusine mie...puteam mai mult...nu am vrut...nu am avut chef..am inghetat in lumea mea awareless...senceless...nu mai am chef sa gandesc...mi.e o leneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.....

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It's fun to just let your inner child out. Build forts and sleep in them. Watch early morning cartoons on Saturday while eating your favorite sugar-coated cereal. To take off your shoes and play in the spring rainstorms. Turn on your favorite music and dance around the room. Wear fun character bandaids. Live off of mac and cheese and PB&J's for a day.

It's fun to just go back and pretend like you don't have to grow up. Be carefree for just one day. Not have to worry about anything but having fun. That's the best relaxation.

American Boys’ Handy Book

Written in 1890, the American Boys Handy Book is filled with different activities a boy can do during each season. Activities include kite making, how to make to make blow guns, and bird watching. This book is an excellent resource for dads who want to provide their sons entertainment that doesn’t involve video games.

Into Thin Air by John Krakauer

This book details the author’s fateful ascent up Mt. Everest in which eight other climbers were killed in a storm. Perhaps the most inspiring story is that of one climber who was left for dead, but awakened 12 hours after being abandoned and hiked back to camp in sub-zero weather. This man is an example to all men that when the will of survival is strong enough, a man can overcome any obstacle.

King Solomon’s Mines by H. Rider Haggard

The author wrote King Solomon’s Mines specifically for boys. The story follows English explorers who penetrate the deepest part of Africa to find the treasure of King Solomon. A great book to read with your son at bedtime. You’ll both be entertained and instill in your son a sense of manly adventure.

The Idiot by Fyodor Dostoevsky

Our protagonist here, Myshkin, is an example of a selfless love, moving to marry a woman to save her from falling into the arms of Rogozhin, who represents darkness. Remind any of you good ol’ boys of that girl in high school who kept running back to the man who didn’t deserve her affections? Well, in this case, the girl runs back to Rogozhin, who, in spite of and perhaps because of his deep passion, rewarded her by…killing her. Myshkin is considered the “idiot” because of his innocence and trust in the best of humanity as it could be, and in the end, his optimism and love for humanity are his undoing in the face of a dark, materialistic society. The lesson: don’t marry a woman to save her from another man…although, come to think of the end of Super Mario Bros…

A River Runs Through It by Norman F. Maclean

You’ve seen the movie, now read the book that inspired it. This book is an American classic. A River Runs Through It follows an older brother’s attempt to save his talented brother from self destruction in one last fly fishing trip. Set in Montana’s beautiful Blackfoot River country, the author fills the story with vivid descriptions of fishing and nature that engages the reader to ponder important life questions. From the story we learn that sometimes the people we love the most are the hardest to help.

“So it is…that we can seldom help anybody. Either we don’t know what part to give or maybe we don’t like to give any part of ourselves. Then, more often than not, the part that is needed is not wanted. And even more often, we do not have the part that is needed.”

The Island of Dr. Moreau by H.G. Wells

The haphazard discovery of scientifically engineered half human-half animals on a remote island is an experience that has the potential to put some hair on your chest. Living with the “Beast Folk” for a year then returning to life as normal in London proves to be exceedingly more difficult for the protagonist.

Malcolm X: The Autobiography

Malcolm X is quite possibly one of the most controversial public figures from the Civil Rights Movement. His autobiography shows what a complex individual Malcolm X was. We see his transformation from ignorance and despair to knowledge and spiritual awakening. His emphasis on the principal of self-reliance and taking a stand for your rights resonates with every man.

Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you’re a man, you take it.

Theodore Rex by Edmund Morris

Theodore Rex is a biography of Teddy Roosevelt that covers his eight years as President. From this book we learn what a man can do if they have unwavering determination. During his eight years as President of the United States, Roosevelt created the national parks system, saw the completion of the Panama Canal, and went after unethical trusts and monopolies. TR created the modern presidency. If only we had more leaders like him.

The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas

The ultimate tale of betrayal and revenge, and perhaps one of the best stories of all time. Edmund Dantes, who shortly after being promoted to captain of his ship, and just days before his marriage to his beloved fiance Mercedes, is brutally betrayed by those he trusts, arrested for treason and consequently taken to a prison on an island off the French coast. The story goes on to tell of his life after escape from prison, his finding the greatest treasure in all the world, and re-entering the society as a wealthy, educated and sophisticated Count. He plots his revenge, which he ultimately denies himself when forced to decide between it and his love for his Mercedes. Through this choice his justice is ultimately served. It is a great novel that you most likely won’t be able to put down until you have it finished, even if you have already seen the movie.

All Quiet on The Western Front by Erich Maria Remarq

A classic war novel that depicts how war can destroy a man. The book begins with young, idealistic German men, going of to fight in WWI believing their cause is just. After experiencing the horrors of trench warfare and shell shock these young men leave the war disillusioned and numb.

“I am young, I am twenty years old; yet I know nothing of life but despair, death, fear, and fatuous superficiality cast over an abyss of sorrow. I see how peoples are set against one another, and in silence, unknowingly, foolishly, obediently, innocently slay one another.”

The Red Badge of Courage by Stephen Crane

As boys, men often have romantic and idealized visions of war. The reality of war, though, is hard and brutal. In order to survive and thrive in war, a man must transform himself into something bigger. The Red Badge of Courage follows a teenager’s enlistment into the Union Army during the Civil War. He enlists with dreams of glory, but soon those dreams are replaced with doubt and fear. In the end, the young protagonist digs deep and finds the courage and confidence he needs to be a successful soldier.

They gazed about them with looks of uplifted pride, feeling new trust in the grim, always confident weapons in their hands. And they were men.

Lives of the Noble Greeks and Romans by Plutarch

If you wish to be a great man, you must learn from great men. One of the best ways to do that is through reading the biographies of great men. Plutarch’s Lives of the Noble Greeks and Romans lets us into the lives of some of histories greatest men. From these writings we learn the importance that a man’s character can have on influencing the world around him. His biography on Alexander the Great is especially inspiring.

The Strenuous Life by Theodore Roosevelt

A Strenuous Life is a collection of speeches and essays by Roosevelt on the importance of building the character of men and women in order for the American Republic to succeed. From it we learn that eschewing the life of ease and luxury are necessary for a country to thrive.

The Bible

Despite being one of the most religious Industrialized nations, America’s religious literacy is horrible. If asked to name one of the Ten Commandments or one of Jesus’ apostles, many Americans wouldn’t be able to do it. The problem is half the books on these lists make Biblical references that must be known by the reader for them to understand the message of that book. If a Western man desires to understand the culture that surrounds him, he needs to have a thorough understanding of the Book that has shaped that culture.

In addition, the Bible is full of ancient counsel and advice that is applicable to today’s man, whether you’re a believer in God or not.

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man I put away childish things. - I Corinthians 13:11

Lonesome Dove by Larry McMurtry

Lonesome Dove is quite possibly the greatest Western novel ever written. The story follows two-long time friends on a cattle drive from the Rio Grande to Montana. Along the way they encounter outlaws, Indians, and old flames. Be warned. This book is a best, but reading it is definitely worth it. After you read the book, make sure to watch the mini-series.

The Maltese Falcon by Dashiell Hammett

There’s nothing more manly than a good hard-boiled detective novel. The Maltese Falcon is filled with ambiguities in morality. Sam Spade, the main character in the book is a hardened and cynical man. But underneath his rough exterior is a man with a sense of idealism. Is it possible to do good even if you’re a bad person? It’s a book that will entertain as well as make you think.

“When a man’s partner is killed, he’s supposed to do something about it. It doesn’t make any difference what you thought of him. He was your partner and you’re supposed to do something about it.”

The Long Goodbye by Raymond Chandler

The Long Goodbye is the last book in the Phillip Marlowe detective series. Like any good hard-boiled detective novel, this one is full of gangsters and beautiful femme fatales. In The Long Goodbye, Marlowe befriends a down-on-his law war veteran and helps him back on his feet. Little did Marlowe know that his relationship with this man would wind him up in trouble. This book makes for great weekend and bed time reading.

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

Atticus Finch embodies all the traits that a noble man should have. Atticus teaches us to fight for what’s , even when everyone else around you thinks you’re wrong. He teaches his children to never judge a man until you’ve walked in their shoes; that we should recognize that people have both good and bad qualities, but focus on the good more.

“Courage is not a man with a gun in his hand. It’s knowing you’re licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do.”

The Dangerous Book for Boys by Conn and Hal Iggulden

This is a great book if you have a son. It’s filled with activities and skills that all boys should know. Even if you don’t have a son, you’ll spend hours flipping through the pages reminiscing about summer days as a boy. You might also learn a few things, too. Subjects include the histories of famous battles and how to make a bow and arrow.

The Killer Angels by Michael Shaara

The Battle of Gettysburg was the turning point in the Civil War. The Killer Angles recounts this great battle from the the men who played a key role in it. The author attempts to get in the minds of General Lee and Colonel Longstreet and decipher their thoughts and motivations leading up to the fateful battle. After reading this, you’ll understand why many historians say the Civil War was the last romantic war ever fought.

The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin

It shouldn’t be a surprise that Ben Franklin’s Autobiography is on the list. The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin is considered by many historians to be America’s first self-help book. In edition to sharing his life’s story, Franklin explains how a man can make himself a success. His story begins with Franklin as boy walking around barefoot and with rolls in his pocket and ends with him being a successful businessman, scientist, and statesman.

Having emerged from the poverty and obscurity in which I was born and bred, to a state of affluence and some degree of reputation in the world, and having gone so far through life with a considerable share of felicity, the conducing means I made use of, which with the blessing of God so well succeeded, my posterity may like to know, as they may find some of them suitable to their own situations, and therefore fit to be imitated.

The Histories by Herodotus

If we don’t learn from the past, we’re doomed to repeat it. The Histories by Herodetus is considered the first work of history in Western literature. The Founding Fathers looked to Herodetus’ histories to learn from the mistakes that the ancient Greeks made with democracy. From the histories we get the best description of the Battle of Marathon. Despite being thousands of years old, many of the problems that ancient Greeks faced, we still face today.

From Here to Eternity by James Jones

This book isn’t about war itself, but rather the it’s about the life of a soldier in Hawaii before the bombing of Pearl Harbor. The main character, Private Robert E. Lee Prewitt is a non-conformist in a profession that demands conformity. His rebelliousness slowly destroys him as the story progresses. The book takes a look at the effect military subculture can have a on a man.

The Frontier in American History by Frederick Jackson Turner

What makes American’s American? According to Fredrick Jackson Turner, it was the existence of the frontier that shaped America. While Turner’s thesis has been disputed, no one can deny the effect that the wide open frontier had on the American psyche. If you’d like to understand a part of what made the American man, read this essay.

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig

Quite possibly the most widely read book on philosophy. The book is set as a cross-country motorcycle trip by a father and son. The book focuses on the importance of quality in a culture obsessed with quantity.

Self Reliance by Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ralph Waldo Emerson is one of America’s greatest philosophers. In his essay, Self Reliance, Emerson stressed the importance of individualism and the importance of living by your conscious. A man should not conform or live a life of false consistency.They should march to the beat of their own drummer.

It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude after own own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.

100 Must-Read Books: The Essential Man’s Library | The Art of Manliness

-Alice

Hatchet by Gary Paulsen

A classic from our youth, the main character (Brian) deals with his parents’ strained relationship by fleeing into the wilderness for a sort of accidental, self-inflicted rite of passage. Perhaps the greatest pearl of wisdom comes early in the book, foreshadowing his quest for survival:

“All flying is easy. Just takes learning. Like everything else. Like everything else.”

Animal Farm by George Orwell

An advanced politics lesson under the guise of a childish farm tale. The allegorical story representing Soviet totalitarianism simplifies social systems to show the endless corruption and manipulation that stems from the struggle for power. Also, it takes no small amount of courage to take jabs at Mr. Stalin himself.

Tarzan of the Apes by Edgar Rice Burroughs

Gentleman? No. Man? Most certainly. Having been raised by apes gives our protagonist more than a leg up on the competition when it comes to survival skills. He was a pretty big hit with the ladies as well. Originally published in the All-Story Magazine in 1912, Tarzan of the Apes led to 23 sequels and many more depictions of the famous character in various other forms of media.

Beyond Good and Evil by Freidrich Nietzsche

With his denunciation of philosophers before him as lacking critical thought and mindlessly adhering to Christian tenets, Nietzsche took philosophy beyond religion, thus founding the Existentialist Movement. Questioning even the most basic of truths, Nietzsche writes that “from every point of view the erroneousness of the world in which we believe we live is the surest and firmest thing we can get our eyes on.” Staging a complete overhaul of the philosophical landscape is beyond ambitious and worthy of your attention. No matter what your beliefs, it is good to examine why you believe what you believe without fear of what you might discover.

The Federalist Papers by Alexander Hamilton, John Jay, and James Madison

Composed of 85 articles, The Federalist Papers served to explain and encourage ratification of the U.S. Constitution. The majority of the essays were penned by Hamilton and published in The Independent Journal and The New York Packet. It is rumored that Hamilton used up most of his wisdom in the writing process, as he later lost his life in a duel, which is essentially two men in close proximity firing bullets at each other without trying to get out of the way.

Moby Dick by Herman Melville

If you ever find yourself on a boat in search of a savage beast, and you encounter a boat that is looking for some of their missing friends that seem to have been attacked by that same whale that you are looking for, take a minute and think. Cost: Possibly your life. Benefit: You kill a big whale. AND you get some serious props.

By this, he seemed to mean, not only that the most reliable and useful courage was that which arises from the fair estimation of the encountered peril, but that an utterly fearless man is a far more dangerous comrade than a coward.

Essential Manners for Men by Peter Post

Lay to rest all situational conundrums you encounter in daily life. From hosting guests to appropriate behavior at social events, Post’s pointers enable a gentleman to deal with any difficult scenario with confidence and poise.

Frankenstein by Mary Wollstonecraft Shelly

Before you get too excited about having your clone or some other cyborg cleaning your house and picking up the dry cleaning…just remember that the cost of the convenience might be the life of your brother, your wife, your friend, and eventually when you track the rogue creature down, you will come really close to revenge but just get sick and die. And to top it off, somehow people will dress up as the beast and also feel sympathy towards him, because it wasn’t even his fault that he was created. He just wanted to be loved by his creator, and when he didn’t get it, he went crazy. Just have kids and tell them to clean your house, and love them so that they don’t act like the monster.

Hamlet by Shakespeare

The longest of Shakespeare’s plays, it is a tragedy that has been remade repeatedly, and with good reason as it explores the depths of man’s desire for revenge. 400 years after it was written, it is still powerful enough to make us root for Hamlet to avenge his father’s death, even as some superior morality might call for mercy.

“There’s a divinity that shapes our ends,

Rough-hew them how we will.”

The Boys of Summer by Roger Kahn

What is a man’s library without some literature on America’s favorite past time? Dubbed “The finest American book on sports,”The Boys of Summer is an account of the Brooklyn Dodgers leading up to their 1955 World Series victory. Kahn’s depiction of some of the game’s greatest legends like Gil Hodges and Duke Snyder is so inspiring to make a man desire another shot on the diamond.

A Separate Peace by John Knowles

A classic coming-of-age story about two boys, set around the time of the Second World War. Dealing with one of the boy’s jealousy of another, and the tragic accident resulting from it, the novel mourns and reflects on the specific moment when all innocence is lost. After all, a boy cannot go on thinking life is about ice cream and tree forts forever.

A Farewell To Arms by Ernest Hemingway

Written from the perspective of Lieutenant “Tenente” Frederic Henry it is a novel of epic manly proportions. As an American ambulance driver with the Italian army in WWI, Henry is injured by a mortar and while in the infirmary falls in love with his British nurse, Catherine Barkley. After healing and having impregnated nurse Barkley, Henry returns to his unit, only to narrowly escape fratricide. Henry goes AWOL and he and his bird flee to neutral Switzerland where they live a peaceful existence until Barkley dies during childbirth. In typical Hemingway fashion, he mourns her death by simply walking back to his hotel in the rain.

The Stranger by Albert Camus

Perhaps the most popular piece of 20th century “existential” literature. The Stranger addresses murder and remorse (or lack thereof) , God and atheism, destiny and justice, and consequently, indifference. Camus’ anti-hero, Meursault is perhaps the ultimate man–unable to cry at his own funeral, and one of the final lines of the novel reads, “… I had only to wish that there be a large crowd of spectators the day of my execution and that they greet me with cries of hate”. Camus gets a special nod for his manliness for being
an active member in the French Resistance during WWII. And you probably thought no Frenchmen would be on this list.

Robinson Crusoe by Daniel Dafoe

Robinson Crusoe deals with mastery and morality. It addresses the ability of mankind to master his surroundings through hard work, and patience and faith, which eventually enable him to survive on an
unknown island and able to cope with the difficult terrain, less-than-friendly natives and basically every wicked trial that comes his way. The morality addressed in this book is the eponymous protagonist’s rejection of his father’s advice to accept the happiness of the middle class life from which he was born. Against the wishes of his family, he runs off to sea to find adventure. It is not until Crusoe literally recreates a primitive approximation of that middle class life for himself on his island that he is freed.

The Pearl by John Steinbeck

A story about the ill-fate of a poor pearl diver, Kino and his wife and infant. The Pearl starts with Kino’s son Coyotito having been stung by a scorpion, and being as though they are so poor, Kino has to dive to find a pearl to sell in-order to pay for his son’s medical attention. After finding the largest Pearl known to his region, word spreads and everyone is after his score. Eventually his son recovers naturally and the fate of the Pearl consumes the entire region, including Kino. Kino does all he can to protect his beloved family while fleeing north to sell the pearl for a better life for them. Eventually, a bounty hunter’s stray bullet kills his son, and upon realizing the misfortune this great treasure brought him Kino hurls it back into the sea. A melancholy ending yes, an endorsement of socialism perhaps…but as a reflection of what a man will do for his family, it is pretty spot-on.

On the Road by Jack Kerouac

The stream of consciousness drifting (see the 120 foot long manuscript scroll above) has helped us experience that sacred institution of just going, and using our own language to experience the rapid unfolding of a new town as a rich flash in a pan. Lucky for all of us, he has saved us the trouble of popping Benzedrine for 3 weeks and experiencing our own mad visions, and we can simply join his world without ferociously grinding our teeth (though Kerouac said it was made possible by coffee alone). If you haven’t read it, get it now please. If you have, you know that you will never complain about a long drive again, whether alone or with the boys.

Treasure Island by Robert Louis Stevenson

Aside from the frilly shirts, I don’t think there was anything more masculine than pirates up until Tom Selleck’s birth. Stevenson’s creation of Treasure Island has forever changed our view of the pirate world. His secret maps marked with an ‘X’ and hidden gold have enchanted readers for over a century.

“Here it is about gentlemen of fortune. They lives rough, and they risk swinging, but they eat and drink like fighting-cocks, and when a cruise is done, why, it’s hundreds of pounds instead of hundreds of farthings in their pockets.”

Confederacy of Dunces - John Kennedy Toole

First published in 1980, 11 years after the author’s suicide, this New Orleans based novel went on to win Toole the Pulitzer Prize in Fiction. A perfect comedy of errors centered around the character of Ignatius J. Reilly, a lazy and socially ignorant, but intelligent man who still lives with his mother at the age of 30. This book serves as a guide for what a man ought not to be, while providing sound entertainment all the while.

Foucault’s Pendulum - Umberto Eco

Italian novelist and philosopher Umberto Eco first published this work in 1988, which tells the story of three friends who create their own historical conspiracy to entertain themselves. “The Plan” becomes more intelligent and complex, and they begin to make believers of others, and even themselves. As they become wrapped up in a series of events beyond their control, the book displays the inherent credulity of man. Getting lost in a “Choose Your Own Adventure” that becomes a reality is every grown boy’s dream.

The Great Railway Bazaar by Paul Theroux

In this unique odyssey, Theroux recounts his journey through Europe, the Middle East, India and Southeast Asia on the continent’s fabled trains — the Orient Express, the Golden Arrow to Kuala Lumpur, the Mandalay Express and the Trans-Siberian Express. His well-documented and entertaining adventures have come to be considered a classic in the travel literature genre. This journal satisfies the vicarious traveler and inspires the adventurous man.

Fear and Trembling by Soren Kierkegaard

In this book Kierkegard creates a case study from the famous bible story (Genesis 22) from when Abraham is famously commanded by God to sacrifice his son Isaac. Kierkegaard uses the story as an opportunity to question the philosophy of religion, the relationship between philosophy and religion, the nature of God and faith, faith’s relationship with ethics and morality, and the difficulty of being authentically religious. It is manly to ask questions about the bigger things - there is more to life than sports.

Undaunted Courage by Stephen Ambrose

Undaunted Courage is a compelling account of the Lewis and Clark expedition through the Louisiana Territory. The book is thoroughly researched and extremely well written. The bravery and courage of the explorers should inspire any man.

Paradise Lost by John Milton

John Milton’s Paradise Lost is a timeless hard-to-read classic. Its imagery has shaped how the Western world views Christianity, sin, the fall, life, death, heaven, and hell. Unlike many of his predecessors, Milton concentrated on more humanist elements. Reading Milton might or might not change your view of God and man, but absorbing him will change your love of language. The words are vivid and powerful and beg to be read aloud.

Cannery Row by John Steinbeck

A man, no matter his class or situation, needs a healthy appreciation for the simple folk. The working class; the laborers compose the backbone of society. Steinbeck’s Cannery Row depicts a cross-section of this community, located on a strip of sardine canneries, in the late Depression era. This area has a life of its own, and is as much a character of the book as any of the community members themselves. The novel not only paints a picture of a difficult time that has passed, but gives honest insight into the human condition that is timeless.

“Because he loved true things he tried to explain”

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Another Roadside Attraction by Tom Robbins

Just like The DaVinci Code, but on hallucinogenic mushrooms…and written 30 years prior. A psychedelic story of a wandering musical troupe that settle down to open “Captain Kendrick’s Memorial Hot Dog Wildlife Preserve,” and somehow get mixed up with the Vatican. The motto:

“The principal difference between an adventurer and a suicide is that the adventurer leaves himself a margin of escape (the narrower the margin, the greater the adventure).”

White Noise by Don Delillo

This National Book Award winner was more right on in 1985 than Delillo could have possibly known. The drug Dylar is the supposed answer to man’s fear of death, yet causes users to lose their minds. This is an extremely enjoyable read, particularly relevant and funny in its examination of how people act in a climate of fear (hello Homeland Security) and under a “hail of bullets” from advertisers and imaginary enemies alike. The lesson: secretly hold out for the wonder drug and/or fountain of youth, but live each day like it might be your last…in a good way…and still show up to work unless you really, really know it is your last day on earth.

Ulysses by James Joyce

Just buy it and put it on your bookshelf and remember this from the book: “A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.” We suspect that even those who have written their doctoral thesis on the book only pretend to have read every word, but a good friend of mine said not to question an academic on things of this nature, so if you encounter someone who has built a career around Joyce, don’t ask if they actually read it.

The Young Man’s Guide by William Alcott

The Young Man’s Guide is a thorough resource which deals with the formation of character in a young man with regard to the mind, manners, and morals. It also has a good amount of insight on the topics of marriage and business. A strong foundational book for a young man asking the practical questions of how to live life while minimizing both terrible temporal mistakes and, well…the wrath of God. As is stated in the introduction, it is Alcott’s intention to influence young men such that they contradict the stereotypes of thoughtlessness, rashness and an unwillingness to be advised or taught. Alcott was prescient in writing this book and would probably roll over in his grave if he saw the modern race of man-babies that play X-Box for 20 hours each week and are perpetually bartending their way through junior college.

Blood Meridian, or the Evening Redness in the West by Cormac McCarthy

This Western novel written in 1985 is not only considered to be McCarthy’s personal masterpiece, but also one of the greatest books of the 20th century. As the title suggests, the story is marked by extreme violence and contains many religious references. Isn’t that what the history of man is all about?

Seek: Reports from the Edges of America & Beyond by Denis Johnson

Through a collection of short stories that take you from a Bikers for Jesus convention to the 13 year olds with semi-automatic machine guns in Liberia, Johnson uses rich prose to examine the role of a man as a potted plant, observing his surroundings and soaking it up. In this story, horrific violence in seeming other worlds contrasts with the comparatively safe process of self-discovery in different U.S. subcultures. This will absolutely open your eyes to the simultaneous beauty and horror of our world, and remarkably, he does it without sounding condescending, jaded and bitter…he is just there, and you will absolutely see everything that he sees.

“In the Ogaden, life comes hard, but these have won through yet another day, unlike all the others they’ve lost to sickness, famine, massacres, battles. The villagers sit close together, everyone touching someone else, steeped in a contentment that seems, at this moment, perpetual. It occurs to the writer that the secret way to happiness is in knowing a lot of dead people.”

Crime And Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky

One of the most amazing aspects of this masterpiece is that it was written by Dostoevsky as part of his resolve to deal with some serious financial hardships. The lesson isn’t to quit your job and write that novel you’ve been meaning to write…but many of us can relate to that sense of personal ambition and pride in the face of fear and financial stress. Again, take the moral lessons from the characters’ mistakes, don’t model your life after them.

“‘Oh God, how loathsome it all is! and can I, can I possibly….No, it’s nonsense, it’s rubbish!’ he added resolutely. ‘And how could such an atrocious thing come into my head? What filthy things my heart is capable of.’”

…Ah, the classic moral dilemma arising from something as simple as a justified murder.

Steppenwolf by Herman Hesse

The mysterious drifter is always an intriguing protagonist. One of Hesse’s best known works, Steppenwolf gained much popularity through the Beat and hippy genenerations of the 50’s and 60’s which related to his common theme of search for spirituality outside the boundaries of society.

The Book of Deeds of Arms and of Chivalry by Christine De Pizan

An example of what we can learn about being better men from the perspective of a woman (de Pizan pictured above, instructing her son). She wrote this classic in the 15th Century, a time period not known as the peak of gender equality. Of course, we can project this into our work and not use the text as the foundation to build a neighborhood militia group.

“No one is afraid to do what he is confident of having learned well. A small force which is highly trained in the conflicts of war is more apt to victory: a raw and untrained horde is always exposed to slaughter.”

The Art of Warfare by Sun Tzu

Written in the 6th Century, this has been one of the most influential texts in strategy and planning, especially emphasizing an ability to adapt to changing circumstances and environments rather than having a rigid plan and staying the course through to disaster.

“So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will fight without danger in battles.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.”

Don Quixote by Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra

Considered by many to be the greatest work of fiction, it is a goldmine of quotes surrounding a central theme that could be summed up by “all that glisters is not gold.” This is also a great reminder that it is great to be a dreamer and a visionary, but remember to keep (at least somewhat) grounded in reality.

“I would do what I pleased, and doing what I pleased, I should have my will, and having my will, I should be contented; and when one is contented, there is no more to be desired; and when there is no more to be desired, there is an end of it.”

Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer

This one is tough, because you want it but you don’t…but a wise friend once said, upon being flattered for his world travels “yeah, well you go to all these places always knowing that one day you will come back to somewhere.” We all have friends who are, or some of us may be personally, drifters, soaking up each place like a sponge, and then leaving for the next whistlestop. It is the classic battle between stability/same vs. mobility/change. In the end, the self-centered opting out of human interaction might not be quite as romantic as you hoped. All good things in proportion dear friends. His realization (”Happiness Only Real When Shared”) is the great counter-balance to that primitive urge to walk alone into the wild. Or at least think about the fact that snow melts, and rivers get higher.

The Divine Comedy by Dante Alighieri

This epic vision of afterlife is valuable because it challenges us to examine the roots of what we believe and why, and the role of faith in our lives. Further, it is a vision of a world (or worlds) beyond our every day concerns, which is particularly fascinating because it was very much influenced by both Muslim and Catholic thoughts, beliefs and history.

The Hobbit by JRR Tolkien

The precursor to the Lord of the Rings trilogy, this is a good one to read (or re-read) in advance of the 2010 release of the movie adaptation which is being directed by Guillermo del Toro (Pan’s Labyrinth). This is the foundation of it all, and this passage demonstrates the effect on all men (and dwarves) when faced with the prospect of power.

“Their mere fleeting glimpses of treasure which they had caught as they went along had rekindled all the fire of their dwarfish hearts; and when the heart of a dwarf, even the most respectable, is wakened by gold and by jewels, he grows suddenly bold, and he may become fierce.”

The Rough Riders by Theodore Roosevelt

Roosevelt’s own account of his experience commanding the Rough Riders in the Spanish-American War. A great war history from a man who lived it himself. From his account, a man can learn what it means to be a true leader. TR set the example for his men and they followed because they simply respected him.

East of Eden by John Steinbeck

Considered by Steinbeck himself to be the work that he had been preparing for throughout his entire life. If you have had the chance to read this, or if anyone has ever talked about this book to you…perhaps you have been graced to read or even hear an excerpt from the legendary opening to Chapter 13:

Sometimes a kind of glory lights up the mind of a man. It happens to nearly everyone. You can feel it growing or preparing like a fuse burning toward dynamite[...]Then a man pours outward, a torrent of him, and yet he is not diminished. And I guess a man’s importance in the world can be measured by the quality and number of his glories. It is a lonely thing but it relates us to the world. It is the mother of all creativeness, and it sets each man separate from all other men.

Leviathan by Thomas Hobbes

Written during the English Civil War, Hobbes’ work is one of the foremost authorities in political theory and contributed greatly to Enlightenment philosophy. Leviathan’s primary concern is the centralized power of the sovereign state existing to maintain order and peace both within and without. A valuable resource, as a man never knows when he is going to be commissioned with the task of forming a new government.

“In the first place, I put for a general inclination of all mankind, a perpetual and restless desire of power after power, that ceaseth only in death.”

The Thin Red Line by James Jones

The author’s fictional depiction of the Guadalcanal Campaign during WW2. Portraying various wartime activities most would consider repulsive, Jones gives account without judgment. With the current events of Abu Ghraib and Guantanamo Bay, this work is very relevant today.

Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain

A satirical depiction of the social climate in the South just before the turn of the century, “Huck Finn” is largely considered to be the first Great American Novel. Twain’s take on the issue of racism and slavery was initially criticized upon publication and remains largely controversial to this day.

The Politics by Aristotle

From the man that gave pointers to Alexander the Great we can all take note. His writings created the first comprehensive system of philosophy, including morality and aesthetics, logic and science, politics and metaphysics. Though it is thought that much of Aristotle’s work has been lost over the years, it is not a bad idea to take in the surviving words from one of the founding figures of Western Philosophy.

“Now if some men excelled others in the same degree in which gods and heroes are supposed to excel mankind in general… so that the superiority of the governors was undisputed and patent to their subjects, it would clearly be better that once for all the one class should rule and the others serve. But since this is unattainable, and kings have no marked superiority over their subjects… it is obviously necessary on many grounds that all the citizens alike should take their turn of governing and being governed.”

First Edition of the The Boy Scout Handbook

This is the book that started the Boy Scout movement. If you’re a former Boy Scout, you’ll be amazed at the amount of useful information the first edition manual has compared to Scout manuals today. In edition to teaching essential scouting skills, the first edition of the Boy Scout Handbook also includes stories of adventure and bravery that will excite and inspire any man.

Cyrano de Bergerac by Edmond Rostand

A poet, musician and expert swordsman. That is a true Renaissance Man. Unfortunately, Cyrano had a tragically large nose which affected his confidence enough to keep him from professing his love for the fair Roxanne, even on his deathbed. I wasn’t exaggerating when I used the word “tragic.” Also, one must respect the play responsible for introducing the word “panache” to the English language.

Tropic of Cancer by Henry Miller

For its honest and graphic depiction of sex, this book was deemed “pornographic” by state courts upon its New York publishing in 1961. This ruling, however, was later overturned by the U.S. Supreme Court and the book became very influential in the sexual revolution of the 60’s and 70’s.

The Crisis by Winston Churchill

A fictional Civil War era romance between a New England lawyer and a southern belle, written by the “American Churchill” but often mistaken for the British Prime Minister who shared the same name. Out of respect for the American’s work, the British Churchill offered to add his middle initial to any of his own published writings to avoid confusion.

The Naked and The Dead by Norman Mailer

Taking place in World War II, this is widely considered to be one of the best war novels ever written. As a young man, Mailer showed extraordinary insight into power relationships between the soldiers and their superiors. Further, the soldiers also deal with various degrees of compassion while fighting to maintain a belief in the capacity of humanity to be good while engaging in the brutality of war and being forced to follow orders against their ideals in some cases. A prime example of his superb insight into the workings of many systems and organizational structures, which is still relevant in today’s wars and corporations alike:

“To make an Army work you have to have every man in it fitted into a fear ladder… The Army functions best when you’re frightened of the man above you, and contemptuous of your subordinates.”

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100 Must-Read Books: The Essential Man’s Library

May 14, 2008

Written by: Jason Lankow, Ross Crooks, Joshua Ritchie, and Brett McKay

Photo by the nonist

There are the books you read, and then there are the books that change your life. We can all look back on the books that have shaped our perspective on politics, religion, money, and love. Some will even become a source of inspiration for the rest of your life. From a seemingly infinite list of books of anecdotal or literal merit, we have narrowed down the top 100 books that have shaped the lives of individual men while also helping define broader cultural ideas of what it means to be a man.

Whether it be a book on adventure, war, or manners, there is so much to learn about life’s great questions from these gems. Let us know in the comments which of these you loved, hated, and the books that meant a lot to you and should have made the list (you can even get really indignant about your favorite book). And without further ado, this is our list.

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The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald

Set on the East Coast in the roaring 20’s, this American novel is a classic. From it we learn that often the wanting of something is better than actually having it. It is relevant to every man’s life. Furthermore, one true friend is worth infinitely more than a multitude of acquaintances.

“He smiled understandingly-much more than understandingly. It was one of those rare smiles… It faced–or seemed to face–the whole external world for an instant, and then concentrated on you with an irresistible prejudice in your favor.”

The Prince by Niccolo Machiavelli

Considered by most to be the authoritative text on statesmanship and power (how to obtain it as well as an illustration of its trappings), although certainly a shrewd one.

From this arises an argument: whether it is better to be loved than feared. I reply that one should like to be both one and the other; but since it is difficult to join them together, it is much safer to be feared than to be loved when one of the two must be lacking.

Essentially, Machiavelli advocates letting your people have their property and women, but making sure that they know what you are capable of doing if they step out of line.

Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut

Through the beloved Billy Pilgrim, we see the central theme’s of Vonnegut’s humanism along with his satirical take on how disgusting it is when humans don’t use their (limited) free will to prevent simple atrocities. A great example of how we use humor to deal with hardship, and the conflict between the way heroism is conveyed through stories for actions that perhaps could have been avoided altogether.

“So then I understood. It was war that made her so angry. She didn’t want her babies or anybody else’s babies killed in wars. And she thought wars were partly encouraged by books and movies.”

1984 by George Orwell

If you are already worried about the information that your computer is collecting from you, re-read this one and you will feel much better! Or, perhaps, you will throw your computer in a river. This is the classic text for the will of the individual to maintain his privacy and free will, and how easy it is at the end of it all to just try to blend in and go with the flow to avoid making things even worse by speaking out.

“But it was all right, everything was all right, the struggle was finished. He had won the victory over himself. He loved Big Brother.”

The Republic by Plato

Since every man can use a fair portion of philosophy in his literary diet, the origin of legitimate western thought might be a good place to start. Plato’s most well known work breaks down topics of which you should have a fundamental understanding such as government, justice, and political theory.

Brothers Karamazov by Fyodor Dostoevsky

The final work of Dostoevsky (commonly accepted English spelling of the name) has a lot of meat to chew on…it strikes at the core of who we are and what drives us. Ultimately, for all of our strength and wisdom as individuals, we are often frustrated by our failures to do what we know we must do (or at least think we should do) and need the power of forgiveness in our lives. Many important thinkers consider this to be one of (if not the most) important masterpiece of literature, including Sigmund Freud and Franz Kafka (who did not think quite alike, to say the least).

“So long as man remains free he strives for nothing so incessantly and so painfully as to find some one to worship.”

The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger

Holden Caufield, if nothing else, should serve as a point of reference for the angst and cynicism that you perhaps once had, or ideally never had. If you thought like him when you were 16 or 17 years old, you are forgiven. If you still identify with him, you need to find some more joy, somehow…fake it ’til you make it. Do something.

The Wealth of Nations by Adam Smith

The fundamental work on free market policies: “It is not from the benevolence of the butcher, the brewer or the baker, that we expect our dinner, but from their regard to their own self interest. We address ourselves, not to their humanity but to their self-love, and never talk to them of our own necessities but of their advantages.” Want an education in economics? This book is a great start. (Pictured is the copy that belonged to John Adams).

For Whom the Bell Tolls by Ernest Hemingway

Set in the Spanish Civil War, this novel explores who man becomes when faced with the prospect of his own death. It is worthwhile for all of us to consider what we would give our lives for, as this defines what and who we truly love. This is one of the great examples of how war has shaped men, past and present, and has in part defined the image of a true hero who is courageous even when it has brutal consequences.

“You learned the dry-mouthed, fear-purged purging ecstasy of battle and you fought that summer and that fall for all the poor in the world against all tyranny, for all the things you believed in and for the new world you had been educated into.”

The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde

Arguably the best work from the ever-quotable Wilde, this novel is a guide for how to live a life of pure decadence. Packed with impeccable wit, clever one-liners and an excessive amount of egotistical vanity. At the very least, this book will show you the glory and the pitfalls of being the best looking chap around.

The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck

One of the most controversial books of its time, the Joads are “Okies” who head west to the fertile valleys of California during the Dust Bowl era of the 1930s. Because of the social solutions that the book proposed, and its depiction of work camp conditions, some groups attacked the novel as communist propaganda. However, it was widely read as a result of the national attention, and is a classic example of a man doing what he had to do for his family and persevering through all plights and conditions.

“Fear the time when the strikes stop while the great owners live - for every little beaten strike is proof that the step is being taken…fear the time when Manself will not suffer and die for a concept, for this one quality is the foundation of Manself, and this one quality is man, distinctive in the universe.”

Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

With a revolutionary and controversial view of the future, Huxley’s satiric take on the “utopia” of tomorrow has provoked reader’s thoughts for decades. Depictions of genetically enhanced embryos predisposed to a specific social class cast warning signs for technological interference with human life.

How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

This is not a Dr. Phil self-help book. Citing intimate examples from the likes of Rockefeller, Charles Schwab and FDR, this comprehensive guide is all about how to get ahead in business, relationships and life. Read one chapter a day for the rest of your life. It will make you a far better man than you would ever be without it.

Call of the Wild by Jack London

The tale of a domesticated dog forced to adapt to a life of work in Alaska during the Yukon gold rush. Most of us can recall rooting for Buck in the ferocious battle to be the leader of the pack. Make sure that you embrace the benefits of competition to push yourself to become better in your work, but do it without biting and/or killing co-workers.

“…men, groping in the Arctic darkness, had found a yellow metal…These men wanted dogs, and the dogs they wanted were heavy dogs, with strong muscles by which to toil, and furry coats to protect them from the frost.”

The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt by Edmund Morris

The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt shows what made Theodore Roosevelt the great man he was. Reading this book will inspire you to get off the couch and start moving in your life. Harvard graduate, New York Assemblyman, rancher, historian, author of several books, New York City Police Commissioner, Assistant Secretary of the Navy, Governor of New York, and commanding officer of the Rough Riders are all titles that TR had before he became president at 42.

Swiss Family Robinson by Johann David Wyss

Every boy can stand to learn a bit of old fashioned resourcefulness from their pops. Finding yourself on a deserted island is surely the way to learn these skills in a hurry. Tree forts, treasure hunting, and constant adventure mark the Swiss Family’s 10 year run. Lesson number one? Shipwrecks make for some good literature.

Dharma Bums by Jack Kerouac

An idealistic vision from the man who fueled the Beat Generation, a life on the road without concern for wealth or even stability, rather an enjoyment of surroundings, whatever they may be. This is a great book for reminding us to get away from technology, at least for a day, to appreciate nature and some of the more simple pleasures of life. Don’t feel inferior to the beatniks if you still like driving your car…don’t ever let hipsters give you guilt trips.

“I felt like lying down by the side of the trail and remembering it all. The woods do that to you, they always look familiar, long lost, like the face of a long-dead relative, like an old dream…”

The Iliad and Odyssey of Homer

(2 for 1 special) Though the authorship is disputed, the place of these two epics in the man canon is not. Roughly based around the events of the Trojan War, these poems are likely a great collection of common Greek folklore surrounding the events in those days of fierce political turmoil. It is rumored that there were 10 epics in all, and 8 were lost over time. This may be a blessing in disguise, because, if they were around, you would never get to the rest of this list.

Catch-22 by Joseph Heller

The logic here is simple: any book which has the influence to have coined terminology commonly used in our society for decades on end should be perused based solely on principle. Nothing is worse than a man being caught using language of which he is unfamiliar with its proper meaning or origin. Also, it is a great book.

Walden by Henry David Thoreau

A bit of isolation never hurt any man. Thoreau spent two years, two months and two days writing this book in Walden, a cabin tucked deep in the woods near Concord, Massachusetts. This work of non-fiction describes the changing of the seasons over the course of a year and was intended to give the author an escape from society in order to achieve a more objective point of view. A real man would take this sabbatical himself, but the book should suffice for those of you who are employed.

Lord of the Flies by William Golding

Primal instincts. With only the most basic of needs to consider, human nature takes a different approach. A fictional study of the struggle for power and the unspeakable things that man (or child) will do when taken outside the order of civilization.

The Master and Margarita by by Mikhail Bulgakov

There is nothing more manly than a bout with the Devil. An entertaining commentary on the atheistic social bureaucracy in Moscow in the 1930’s wherein Lucifer himself pays the town a visit to make light of their skepticism regarding the spiritual realm.

“As a result he decided to abandon the main thoroughfares and make his way through the side streets and back alleys where people were less nosy, and there was less chance that a barefoot man would be pestered about long johns that stubbornly refused to look like trousers.”

Bluebeard by Kurt Vonnegut

Written as the autobiography of Rabo Karabekian, of course with Vonnegut’s own war experiences drawn upon as inspiration to the aging artist who narrates his own story. It is a hilarious take on abstract art, and takes jabs at both the inflated self-importance of the artist and the people who simply refuse to look beneath the surface.

“My soul knows my meat is doing bad things, and is embarrassed. But my meat just keeps right on doing bad, dumb things.”

Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand

Exploring the “virtue” of living for ourselves, this monster of a book (1,084 pages in my version) is certainly worth plowing through as it is simply a great story. The fundamental concept is that our world falls apart when individuals stop seeking their own satisfaction through personal achievement and feel a sense of entitlement to the accomplishments and work of others. This book challenges us on many levels…you may find it conflicting with your value of other people, her treatment of God, or any other beliefs you already hold. Yet, who can argue with “The most depraved type of human being … (is) the man without a purpose.”

The Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka

As Gregor Samsa awoke one morning from uneasy dreams he found himself transformed in his bed into a monstrous vermin.

None of us want this to happen. Well, most of us don’t. Kafka employed terms from law and politics, and was always concerned about some vague, oppressive bureaucracy that sought his ruin, though seeming cool and detached. We can take something from the very approach of Kafka to his work and find a balance between reading too much meaning into an event and, on the contrary, caring too little and being completely disillusioned.

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Doi cercetatatori americani, Eric Corty si Jenay Guardiani, au efectuat un studiu in randul a 50 de membri ai Society for Sex Therapy and Research, intre care medici chirurgi, psihologi, medici de familie, asistente medicale etc., care s-au confruntat cu sute de pacienti de-a lungul timpului.

68% dintre acestia au indicat patru coordonate in ceea ce priveste durata unui act sexual, incepand de la penetrare pana la ejaculare: adecvat, satisfacator, prea lung si prea scurt. In medie, s-a stabilit ca durata adecvata inseamna 3-7 minute, durata satisfacatoare inseamna 7-13 minute, durata prea scurta inseamna 1-2 minute, iar durata prea lunga inseamna 10-30 minute.

Cu toate acestea, specialistii declara ca modul in care un barbat sau o femeie determina durata optima a unui act sexual depinde de diverse criterii personale: cultura, educatie, conceptii, valori, influente sociale, relatii interpersonale etc. Si astazi exista stereotipuri in privinta educatiei sexuale - multe persoane tind sa creada, de exemplu, ca partidele de "hard-sex" promovate in productiile porno se aplica si in viata reala.

In trecut, sondajele aratau ca un numar mare de respondenti si-ar fi dorit ca sexul sa dureze in jur de 30 de minute sau mai mult. Insa atat timp cat barbatii si femeile viseaza la nopti intregi petrecute facand sex salbatic, in care erectiile si orgasmele se succed precum scenele unui film erotic, va exista intotdeauna si reversul medaliei: dezamagire, confuzie si chiar aparitia unor disfunctii sexuale.

Vazut pe yuppy.ro.

Mia suocera pensa che non faccio un cazzo perchè lavoro da seduto.

(Matteo - art director)

Hello!

Here are some interesting facts about Massage Therapy:

• It's beneficial for almost all diseases
• 80% of disease is stress related
• Massage reduces stress
• Massage is to the human body what a tune-up is to a car
• It provides both a physical and metal boost
• Helps relieve stress and aids relaxation
• Helps relieve muscle tension and stiffness
• Reduces muscle spasams
• Enhances athletic performance
• Promotes deeper and easier breathing
• Helps relieve effects of eye-strain
• Improves posture
• Stengthens the immune system

Tips To Finding A Qualified Massage Therapist:

• The American Massage Therapy Association (AMTA) has over 30,000 members in over 20 countries
• 70% of the members demonstrate a high level of skill and expertise through testing and/or education
• AMTA has a code of ethics and practice standards promoting the highest quality assurance in the profession

It's a delight to have them back home, but the noise levels have returned:

• A whistle sounded over and over until it resonates in your brain even after the child stops blowing it.
• The constant, "Da Da Da Da," from the infant.  ("Da da" is the word for me, but apparently for everything else too).
• The blare of the television.
• The sudden crash.

In and of themselves, these all can be annoying sounds that make it difficult to work.  But then again you have to take them with a few grains of salt:  Someday sooner than we think, they'll be gone and you'd do about anything to hear the sounds of childhood.

If the noise is bothering you, take a deep breath.  Then revel in it.  It won't be here that long in the overall scheme of things.

Je suis en roue libre ce matin, pas question de passer une heure à vous raconter mes épopées, mais je vais faire mon possible pour m'octroyer du temps, en fin de journée (?) pour TOUT vous dire.

Voilà, je me sens tellement bien, tellement légère, que je prends ma petite robe toute légère, mes petits nus pieds tout mignons, et je file profiter du beau temps, à droite, à gauche...

En fait, je vous l'avoue, le cerveau est quelque peu vidé de toute substance ou neurones qui auraient pu en faire son essence.

je vous raconte, mais pas maintenant ... promis etc ... !

Euh j'adresse des merci à un tas de gens qui seront cités dans le désordre (juste retour de l'état de mon cerveau),

merci d'avoir pris de mes nouvelles, de m'avoir envoyé parfois un seul mot mais lourd de signification et que je ne tolère qu'en raison des cirsconstances, je cite donc :

Miki, K, Eric, Patrick, Switchie, Joël, Daub, Edith (trop forte : elle m'a soufflé les réponses à 500 kms, rien que par la pensée, je l'aime tiens !), Christophe, Nicole, Isa, André (Romain), Dajojo (parce que je l'aime bien quand il se mélange les pinceaux et que rien que le nom m'amuse), Véro ... ouf, je suis sûre d'en avoir oubliés et ça, ça me frustre terrible (pardon, pardon, pardon).

Je vous informe juste que je suis saine (encore un peu, si si ) et sauve (de justesse quand même) ... et lasse .... il vaut mieux que je me sauve tiens !

Dupa cativa ani de casnici intr-un cuplu apare o problema.Sotia este frigida.Dupa cateva luni la insistentele sotului frustrat consulta un specialsit.Acesta ii da o reteta si ii spune sotului zambind:
- Mergi acasa da-i doua pastile pune-o sa faca un dus si cand iese afara os a vezi ce pofta are.
Merge sotul acasa ii da pastilele de rigoare sotiei si ea pleaca sa faca dus.El ,un pic frustrat incepe sa se gandeasca….,,nu am mai facut sex de cateva luni …ce fac daca nu fac fata???”si….ia si el doua pastile sa nu se faca de ras in fata sotiei.
Dupa 10 minute vine sotia strigand in camera cat o tine gura.
-Vreau un barbatttttt!!!
La care sotul si mai tare
- Si eu!!!!:))))))))))))))

Update , inca unul :D

Un american vrea sa cumpere o ferma in Ardeal Face turul fermei si, lasfirsit vede stupii de albine.-Nu mai cumpar ferma ca mi-e frica de albine.-Hai dom'le ca albinele sunt bune:fac miere, ceara si dau propolis.-Nu, ca mi-e frica de albine.-Uite dom'le facem un pariu: te leg dezbracat de copacul asta si daca temusca vreo albina pana maine dimineata,iti dau ferma pe gratis.Dimineata il gaseste palid, obosit, vlaguit.-C-ai patit te-a muscat vreo albina ?-Nu.-Atunci ce?-Nene,vitelul de acolo n-are mama?

So you want to set the mood with scented candles. May it be a fun gathering, family visit, a date or just a home alone relaxation, there are some things that you should note:

For the Candles:

1. When selecting a candle by scent, don't smell the wax. Smell the inside of the lid or container because that's where the scent collects. The full body of the scent drifts up and collects in the underside of the lid.
2. Although candle warmers work well for releasing scent in large dosages, you'll be left with unscented wax after a few uses. So, burning a candle is a more efficient way to release scent into a room. Scent will continue to be released throughout the entire life of your candle.
3. Plan ahead if you're counting on having a room enveloped in a candle's fragrance. A candle's scent is released through it's wax pool, and it can take 15 to 30 minutes to develop a pool sizeable enough to fill a room with fragrance.
4. To combat soot keep your candle away from drafts, keep your wicks trimmed to 1/4 inches and use a candle topper.
5. To increase the life or your candle, burn it in longer intervals, two, three or four hours at a time. Burning it in short, frequent intervals - ten minutes here, 30 minutes there - actually decreases a candle's overall number of burn hours.

Now we move on to selecting a scent, sometimes the sales person is helpful and sometimes they are not. Here are some of the effects of different scents according to Dr. Hirsch, otherwise known as Dr. Smell.

- Lavender: Studies show that the smell of lavender triggers alpha waves in the posterior part of the brain associated with a relaxed state. Use this scent when you want to create a relaxing mood in the bathroom or in the family room areas.

-- Jasmine: Jasmine’s scent triggers beta waves in the front of the head, which stimulates alertness. Jasmine has been proven to help focus and increases hand-eye coordination. Jasmine should be used at work stations or while studying or doing homework.

-- Roses: There are over a hundred varieties of roses and not only is this flower a symbol of romance, but the scent of roses also increases olfactory-evoked nostalgia that will bring happy moments back to memory. Dr. Hirsch recommends using roses in social areas as well as when you have a visitor at your house.

-- Violets: Dr. Hirsch’s studies also showed that violets enhance learning speed by 17 percent, and improve concentration when used in study rooms. Violets can be placed on studying and working areas, when reading or doing homework. The fragrance of violets on clothes is a good way to take this flower essence with you to places where you need to stay focused.

-- Lilies: The scent of lily has been proven to increase wakefulness and help you stay alert. An arrangement made of lilies in the study area or living room can do the trick when you want to stay alert.

-- Cinnamon: According to Dr. Hirsch, cinnamon may also bring happy moments back to memory and may lift your spirits. You can use in your kitchen area after cooking to evoke joyful memories.

How To Meditate And Calm The Mind.

Summary
This article will show you how to relax deeply and meditate using different techniques, as well as showing you where to use meditation in different areas of your life, including some areas you may not have thought of yet.

(image: owner: Strobist.com found at: flickr.com)

Note for those with "no time": I'm not being mean here, but I am sure you can spare 15-30 minutes on yourself. If you can find time for surfing the internet, watching television, or other similar things, then 15 or so minutes for yourself should be nothing. You could also try waking up earlier if you want, plus you don't have to be sitting doing "nothing" when your meditating, there are other situations in which meditation can be helpful too. I will talk more about this later on. Using meditation in your life is a decision you have to make, do not hide behind the illusion of "no time".

Meditation

What Is Meditation?

Simply, meditation is a state of altered consciousness where your brain slows down from its normal, beta brain wave activity to more relaxed alpha activity.

Googobits.com Article On A Beginners Guide To Meditation

Why Meditate?

We live in an age were we are all so busy, and "don't" have time to just relax and calm out hectic mind of the worrys of the day. Meditation can be very helpful in stilling our minds of things that are not helpful for us, or others for that matter. Okay, so some of you may not really care much about this, in which case I here are a few benefits for incorporating meditation in your life:

• Meditation helps change your mood and behavior, including sad/depressive moods.
• Reduces anxiety and stress in the mind and body.
• Is relaxing. (simple, I know, but its true).
• Helps gain energy, strength and concentration.
• It can help reduce the effects of some illnesses too, as a large percentage of them start with un-still (busy) minds.
• All this can be useful in creating a more rich and stable life.

There are other benefits but I wanted to keep this short. Free free to research more on the benefits.

What To Expect?

Do not expect to have all the above overnight or consider meditation something magical, as with anything worth doing it takes some experience and willingness. Now, with frequent practice, (which ideally would be daily) you will experience the great benefits of meditation. What I am saying here is do not go into this hoping for a "magic pill" solution. You may get disappointed.

Now that aside, what can you expect when you start meditating? well it is similar to daydreaming, but you will be in control of when it happens and when you want to stop. The experience will be helpful as you will be quieting the talk that goes on in your mind, and you will feel calm which is one of the main focuses.

NOTE: If this does not happen in your first, or even the first dozen or so sessions don't get disheartened. You cannot transform into a meditation guru that quickly. As I have said with frequent practice the benefits will come. Do not beat your self up for not doing something "right" there is no right and wrong here. Just meditate for the purpose of meditating, all the rest will come naturally.

Posture

I have read during my research that sitting up right with the back straight is the best posture, although you could sit cross legged on the floor, or on a mat. You could also sit on a chair, or just lie down in bed, although you should not be so relaxed that you fall asleep.

When To Meditate

Now some people think meditating before bed may be a good idea, but it is usually not because you are sleepy and most likely will not get far with the meditation. I'm not saying do not do it, but take note of this. Some good times for meditation are practically any period were you are having "down time" for example:

• In the morning when you are already relaxed.
• Standing in a line.
• Doing some not so "mind intensive" activity's at work.
• Eating.
• Before starting the car.
• When you are on the bus.
• When you are feeling stressed.
• And many others, if you think of one feel free to leave a comment.

How To Meditate

Okay! Now we know a bit about meditation how exactly do we meditate?! Its very simple.

Note on how to breathe before we start: You should take a few diaphragmatic breaths, wow thats a long word! What that means is just breathing while expanding the stomach instead of the chest, it is supposed to be the natural way of breathing. Baby's breathe diagrammatically and they have not learned to breath the way most adults do (which is usually through the expanding of the chest), so I think this fact could be one indication that abdominal breathing is a more natural form of breathing. We have learnt to breath while expanding the chest, and it has been said on various websites that this does not allow as much air in to the body, in comparison to abdominal breathing. The following is a common example which shows you how to breath using diaphragmatic breaths, taken from wikipedia:

A common diaphragmatic breathing exercise is as follows:

1. Sit or lie comfortably, with loose garments.
2. Put one hand on your chest and one on your stomach.
3. Slowly inhale through your nose or through pursed lips (to slow down the intake of breath).
4. As you inhale, feel your stomach expand with your hand. If your chest expands, focus on breathing with your diaphragm.
5. Slowly exhale through pursed lips to regulate the release of air.
6. Rest and repeat.

As you continue breathing this way, it will become your natural way of breathing as it has become for me.

Now back to meditation.

• First of get into the posture of your choice.
• You can leave your eyes open or close them, it is your choice. (I close them)
• Start by taking one deep breath .
• Then take 10 deep breaths and count them down (breathe in the way shown above).
  
• Now breath normally.
  
• You should try (this is not easy, especially for beginners) to not focus on any particular thought. When you catch your self focusing on a thought just tell yourself (if it is NOT something you MUST to immediately) that you will take care of it after meditating.
  
• Continue for however long you wish too.

I would suggest doing meditation regularly in short intervals, around 15 minutes or so (although a few minutes is fine too). Doing it for longer periods can be a little harder for beginners, but can also result in a more deep meditative experience.

Audio

First off, music is fine to listen to when your meditating. But it should something calm and relaxing. You don't want to be singing and focusing on the lyrics in stead of meditating, or getting up and wanting to dance! Using music can be helpful for those that don't like to sit in silence.

Next we have audio that is designed to help guide meditation, again these tools can be helpful for getting started with meditation or to add some veriety to your sessions. There are audios that use binaural beats, which (from what I understand) supposedly can help put your brain waves on levels that are simular to calm states or energised ones (for more information go to Wikipedia's